My ex husband and I have 4 children together. We are considered high conflict as we cannot agree on anything. One of those many things is that my time should be my time and his time should be his. He believes all time is his and if he let’s me have my time I should be grateful to get it.
Background of the conflict: we divorce in 2023. He got married in 2023. He let me know 10 days before he was getting married that he planned to get married on my weekend that he was already aware we were going to be out of town because he had given me permission to take the kids out of state to a family function. Long story short he guilted me and used the kids to make me feel bad about not letting them having them question me about why I didn’t want their daddy to get married again so I allowed them to go. My only requirement was he absolutely had to be on time to pick up because I was still going out of state to the family function. He was over an hour late. Ignored calls and texts. He posted on social media about being at his bachelor party. So I took the kids and left out of state. They missed the wedding. He has never forgiven me.
Recently I got married. I planned it months in advance. I planned for my weekend and made sure the kids would be with me for the ceremony and reception so they could attend and would never interfere with his time. He did try to interfere but it was shut down. Kids got to attend.
Recently at a function 2 od the children were showing off outfits from my wedding to him and went to screaming at me because it wasn’t fair they missed his wedding but were at mine because I am bitter. I was getting hate so I told the full story to everyone, his new friends AND his wife who did not know full story. Now everyone is upset. His wife is mad I never told her.
I feel bad I didn’t share the story before but also that I shared it at such a public event (kids’ birthday). I just get tired of taking all the heat for his choices. AITA for outing all this?
